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The Origins of You

The Origins of You

$615

ISBN:9780349432663
作者:Vienna Pharaon
出版社:Piatkus
出版日期:2024/07/18
尺寸:196x127x24mm

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None of us had a perfect childhood; we are all carrying around behaviors that don't serve us - and may in fact be hurting us. But it doesn't have to be that way, says licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Vienna Pharaon. Our past might create our patterns, but we can change those patterns for the better with the right tools.

In THE ORIGINS OF YOU, Pharaon has unlocked a healing process to help us understand our family of origin - the family and framework we grew up within - and examine what worked (and didn't) in that system. Certain dysfunctions (or "wounds") in that family of origin will manifest in our adult life in surprising ways, from work challenges to interpersonal struggles. But when armed with the knowledge about our past, we can rewire our programming to meaningfully improve our relationships and our lives.

It doesn't matter whether you've been in therapy for decades, or whether therapy isn't for you. It doesn't matter if you have plenty of memories from childhood, or struggle to remember anything at all. All that matters is your willingness to look inside yourself, and your determination to find a new way forward. Complete with guided introspection, personal experiences, client stories, frameworks for having difficult conversations, and worksheets to complement each chapter, THE ORIGINS OF YOU will teach you how your family can both build you up and break you down - and how you can heal yourself for good.

 

★亞馬遜當月選書,甫上市即售出十多國版權
★讀者和同業5顆星推薦:「改變我一生的書!」
 
我們的過去是一把鑰匙,可以解密現在、預知未來。
原生家庭未癒合的苦痛,往往以意想不到的方式體現在成年的行為,
了解原生故事的脈絡,悉心照顧過往的傷口,加上正確步驟和練習,
就能重設行為模式,解開人生的限制,寫下全新生命故事。
 
★那些尚未療癒的過往,正主導著你的情緒和人際模式
我們的日常可能重複同樣問題:「每次吵架都是吵同樣的事情」、「我對自己的未來和工作好迷惘」、「我不想再拼命讓我父母理解我的觀點了」。這些難題多半是過去關係中懸而未決的痛苦和創傷,其中又以原生家庭的傷痛特別多。放下過去並不管用,因為創傷不會自己消失,不會因為你無視就自動修復,或因為你逃避就慢慢癒合。
 
★「過去」相當頑強,你愈想遠離它,它愈追著你跑
關注原生家庭並非要責怪誰或找藉口,而是推動你走向療癒的催化劑。家庭是每個人的第一個教室,在此學會表達自我和與人相處。那些未癒合的苦痛所造成的影響,會跟著我們一起長大,使我們背負著特定行為模式,或陷入和上一輩相同的困境,又傳給了下一代。
 
人生並非在找你麻煩,而是想要找你療傷,
我們身上既扯後腿又讓人氣餒的慣性,多半源於童年時期的創傷。
那些傳統包袱、家族秘密、恐懼和不安全感都會代代相傳,
探索原生故事,就有機會修補和緩解,改變過去對自己的箝制。
 
★透過四步驟修補你與自己、他人的關係,重拾人生的自主權
作者為紐約人氣婚姻家族諮商心理師,在本書探討五類常見的創傷源頭,包括難以感受自己值得被愛、缺乏歸屬感、覺得自己無足輕重、難以信任他人、缺乏安全感等。作者提出「原生療癒練習」,以四步驟檢視原生家庭的正負面影響,唯有理解自身的原生創傷,和伴隨而來的長期有害慣性,才真正有助於因應現今困擾你的衝突和行為,幫助你改變、成長和療癒:
 
◆「命名」創傷:生活可能遭到不明的過往經歷主宰,爬梳原生故事,好好替先前無名的
創傷命名。
◆「看見」傷痛:重啟生命力的時刻,見證、感受、連結你的傷痛與任何衝擊的經驗,協助你脫離慣性。
◆面對「悲傷」:在內心為苦痛騰出空間,壓抑的能量得以流動,重拾自在與喜悅。
◆「轉向」全新的行為和選擇:覺察和釐清自己的下一步,才能打破僵化行為,不再隨慣性起舞,或遭情緒控制。
 
——中文簡介摘自天下雜誌出版《療癒原生家庭創傷》

The Origins of You

$615